GROOMS Groom-zilla! 8143 views

Worrying about wedding flowers? Not the bride - it's 'Groomzilla'. A recent survey by stress-busting chewing team, Wrigley Extra, reveals men are just as stressed as women over their weddings!

 

Forget the typical picture of 'bride-zilla' obsessing over colour schemes and caterers, research carried out on behalf of Wrigley Extra reveals a new breed of 'groom-zillas' getting involved in every aspect of the big day! Gone is the laid back British groom who just shows up. The survey found that 8% of today's grooms admit to fretting over the wedding invitation and 3% found picking the bridesmaid outfits caused them to pull their hair out.

It's my party and I'll cry if I want to

The toll of organising a wedding made one in ten grooms, (10%), feel extremely stressed - 1% even confessed to crying. Panic over the finer details, left one in five (19%) grooms having problems sleeping and 11% suffering from headaches. Over one in 10 (12%) even confessed they argued with their future wife and family because they felt so overwhelmed. Managing feuding families also causes problems for grooms, almost half (41%) said this was their biggest stress trigger.

Bride-zilla v. groom-zilla

Issues that traditionally cause brides to panic are affecting their other halves, 4% of grooms got in a flap over the wedding cake and table accessories and one in ten, (11%), were worried about where everyone should be seated. It was the guest list that really caused most men to panic, over a third (39%) grooms said this was their main concern compared to 36% of brides.

Wedding stress - tradition or trend?

The survey found grooms are getting stressed because they have more responsibility. One in five, (20%), men who were married three years ago did not have a role in any of the wedding planning, compared to 7% of grooms getting married in the next year.

"It's no longer just the bride who is fixated on the minute detail of her special day. Increasingly we find grooms becoming just as closely involved in wedding planning - even in organising the flowers and the catering – and as a result suffering from “wedding stress” as much as their brides to be.” says Sarah Auerbach, Managing Director of society wedding planners Fresh Attitude.

Boys will be Boys

It is not just the flowers and table cloths that get men flustered. The best man dishing the dirt in his speech caused one in ten, (10%) men to feel agitated and booking the honeymoon filled 13% of grooms with dread.

Welsh Worriers

The survey found that it's the Welsh crumbling under wedding pressure, over one in ten (12%), felt extremely anxious on the lead up to their wedding and a quarter said it kept them awake at night. Scottish grooms are the most laid back, 35% said they did not feel stressed at all and let other people do the worrying!

And in the Wedding Talk Forum?

'Debs': We have made all the big decisions together i normally do the research and give him choices!

'Mrstrott': Most things we decide on as a couple but he has agreed on everything i've picked so far

'Hollie' My H2B has been completely involved in everything!! Apart form my dress and the bridesmaids, he has played a major part in all of and he is finding it equally enjoyable!

'Joannemm' My man has been great about everything - he hasn't been overly involved but he has helped me make some decisions (ie. colour schemes & themes). I think he would be perfectly happy to turn up on the day and go with whatever I had planned, but I felt I wanted him to be involved, after all it is OUR day not just mine.

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