Your First Dance 34322 views

Some couples love the idea of performing a well-practiced routine in front of their wedding guests; others are terrified at the thought. Whether you are at one of these extremes or somewhere in between, the perfect first dance can be yours.

Our Song. Before anything else you need to choose 'your song'. Most couples pick first-dance music that is special to them: perhaps a song they listened to when they first met, or a romantic ditty that reflects their feelings for each other. Other choices could be music that fits with the theme of your wedding, or perhaps a lighthearted tune that mirrors your personalities and will make your wedding guests chuckle. There’s nothing wrong with a funny first dance!

Know the lyrics. Before you make your final choice of first dance song, be sure to listen to – and preferably also read – the words of the song. It’s amazing how many romantic-sounding songs turn out to be less appropriate than you might think. For example, couples have been known to choose 'Every Breath You Take' by The Police – allegedly about a stalker – or 'Perfect Day' by Lou Reed, about the singer’s heroin habit.

Chat to your wedding DJ. If you are having a DJ play your first dance, make sure they have the song in their collection. This should be discussed well in advance, as should the rest of the evening's play list. To search for a DJ or musician in your area, use the map search in WeddingPath’s Wedding Directory.

Having a wedding band or singer? If you’re hoping your wedding band will play your first dance song, don’t automatically assume that they are familiar with the track you want, or will be willing to learn it. You should also consider whether the line-up of the band works for the song you have chosen. For example, if you are having a jazz quartet, they may not be able to play Aerosmith's 'Don't Wanna Miss A Thing'.

Classical musicians? If you are having a classical group, the musicians will probably be able to sight-read most pieces of music. However, you should discuss your requirements in advance as even good sight-readers will sound better if they have rehearsed the song.

Practise makes perfect. Of course, it’s not all about the song itself; your guests will be watching your dance intently. It’s fine just to sway gently to your chosen song, but it’s still worth having a practice beforehand. Couples who are a little more ambitious could always take a few dance lessons. Many dance teachers do special lessons for couples getting married. Another fun option is to have a dance teacher or two come to your wedding and give everyone lessons. You can start the evening with a group lesson and, when you are warmed up and the ice is broken, clear the floor and start your first dance. Read what WeddingPath members say in this First Dance forum thread.

Timing matters. Everyone’s wedding is different and there’s no right or wrong point in the reception to schedule your first dance. However, as with every aspect of wedding planning, it’s a good idea to think carefully about when the first dance best fits in to your wedding, rather than adding it as an afterthought. You should also make sure that there is an announcement just before the dance so that guests won’t miss out or chat throughout the whole thing.

First dance favourites

Sonny & Cher - I Got You Babe
Stevie Wonder - You Are The Sunshine Of My Life
Robbie Williams - Angel
Frank Sinatra - I Get A Kick Out Of You
Harry Connick Jr - It Had To Be You
Bryan Adams - Everything I Do (I Do It For You)
Madness - It Must Be Love
Lonestar - Amazed
Van Morrison - Have I Told You Lately
Sade - Your Love Is King
Beatles - Something
James Blunt - You're Beautiful
Frank Sinatra - As Time Goes By
Savage Garden - Truly Madly Deeply
Elvis Presley - Can't Help Falling in Love
Take That - How Deep Is Your Love
Whitney Houston - I Will Always Love You

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