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A well-chosen first dance can be one of the most moving – or entertaining – parts of your wedding day. But how do you go about choosing that special song? Hear about some WeddingPathers’ choices or read on for further ideas.

Tips for first-dance success

Some couples love the idea of cutting up the rug in front of their wedding guests; others are terrified at the thought. Whether you are at one of these extremes or somewhere in between, the perfect first dance can be yours.

Most couples choose a first-dance song that is special to them: perhaps a song they listened to when they first met, or a romantic song that reflects their feelings for each other. Other choices could be a song that fits with the theme of your wedding, or a lighthearted tune that mirrors your personalities and will make your wedding guests chuckle. There’s nothing wrong with a funny first dance!

Know the lyrics. Before you make your final choice of first dance song, be sure to listen to – and preferably also read – the words of the song. It’s amazing how many romantic-sounding songs turn out to be less appropriate than you might think. For example, couples have been known to choose 'Every Breath You Take' by The Police – allegedly about a stalker – or 'Perfect Day' by Lou Reed, about the singer’s heroin habit.

Consult with your wedding DJ. If you are having a DJ play your first dance, make sure they have the song in their collection. This should be discussed well in advance, as should the rest of the evening's play list. To search for a DJ or musician in your area, check out WeddingPath’s Wedding Directory.

Having a wedding band or singer? If you’re hoping your wedding band will play your first dance song, don’t automatically assume that they are familiar with the track you want, or will be willing to learn it. You should also consider whether the line-up of the band works for the song you have chosen. For example, if you are having a jazz quartet, they may not be able to play Aerosmith's 'Don't Wanna Miss A Thing'.

Classical musicians? If you are having a classical group, the musicians will probably be able to sight-read most pieces of music. However, you should discuss your requirements in advance as even good sight-readers will sound better if they have rehearsed the song.

Prepare your performance. Of course, it’s not all about the song itself; your guests will be watching your dance intently. It’s fine just to sway gently to your chosen song, but it’s still worth having a little practice beforehand. Couples who are a little more ambitious could always take a few dance lessons. Many dance teachers do special lessons for couples getting married – search online to find someone suitable. Another fun option is to have a dance teacher or two come to your wedding and give everyone lessons. You can start the evening with a group lesson and, when you are warmed up and the ice is broken, clear the floor and start your first dance. Read what WeddingPath members say in this First Dance forum thread.

Pick the right time. Everyone’s wedding is different and there’s no right or wrong point in the reception to schedule your first dance. However, as with every aspect of wedding planning, it’s a good idea to think carefully about when the first dance best fits in to your wedding, rather than adding it as an afterthought. You should also make sure that there is an announcement just before the dance so that guests won’t miss out or chat throughout the whole thing.

Popular choices

Here are a few popular first-dance songs as suggestions. Remember, listen to the lyrics and make sure they are appropriate for you.

Sonny & Cher - I Got You Babe

Stevie Wonder - You Are The Sunshine Of My Life

Robbie Williams - Angels

Frank Sinatra - I Get A Kick Out Of You

Harry Connick Jr - It Had To Be You

Bryan Adams - Everything I Do (I Do It For You)

Madness - It Must Be Love

Lonestar - Amazed

Van Morrison - Have I Told You Lately

Sade - Your Love Is King

Beatles - Something

James Blunt - You're Beautiful

Frank Sinatra - As Time Goes By

Savage Garden - Truly Madly Deeply

Elvis Presley - Can't Help Falling in Love

Take That - How Deep Is Your Love

Whitney Houston - I Will Always Love You

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