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Cruiseee
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Posting Time: 02 Jul 2009 at 2:22PM
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I love trying to bring something different to my wedding, even if it's just minor differences here and there, but lately it feels like my efforts have gone unnoticed, or at at least unappreciated.
Take for example yesterday, since the moment I saw one in a magazine I'd always wanted to have a Wishing Tree instead of a Guestbook. I managed to find a cracker of a deal on a pre-lit twig-tree which was half price. It was delivered yesterday & was so excited I set it up & showed my mum & h2b. Mum liked it, but my h2b was not convinced & said it was silly.
I still really love it & as I've bought it now I'm go ahead with it still, but it did make me think, how many of our guests are also gonna think it's silly? Many of them seem so old-fashioned when it comes to weddings, whereas I'm the complete opposite. I want to add elements to the reception that guests will remember, and don't want my wedding to be just like every other wedding we've been to.
Other things I've done so far that might be considered straying from the norm are having a wedding website (many thanks to weddingpath!) and adding to my rsvp's a section for guests to write 2 songs that will get them on the dancefloor!
Apart from 2 of my bridesmaids & my MIL, no one else has bothered to leave a note on my message board. I'm not even sure if many of my guests have even been to our website, which is incredibly disheartening particularly because I'd put a lot of effort into making it as good as I can & providing my guests all the information they could ever need for the wedding. But now I'm almost feeling like why did I even bother?
And as for the song requests, I'd say that only 5% of our guests actually wrote any songs down. The rest just left it blank. So that idea kinda flopped!
These things aren't really a big deal, it's just that when you a put a little creative effort in you kinda hope people notice and appreciate it, but I'm not really feeling that right now.
But just out of interest, what has everyone else done that's slightly different or kooky?
[I'm a wife now! hehe! :-)]
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Rachiebubbs
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Posting Time: 02 Jul 2009 at 2:39PM
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Hello
I think your tree is a lovely idea, and on the day guest appreciated all the little lovely things I had done.
There could be a couple of reasons why the htb thinks it's silly, firstly, it's not really a 'blokey' sort of thing is it lol, mine couldn't get excited about much in the way of decoration and turned his nose right up when he saw the charicature (spelling!!) i'd had done, alternatively it could be because he can see you getting despondent about other things and maybe he just thinks that people may not appreciate it and you'll be hurt by it.
In relation to message boards, ditto, I think I had 8 messages tops lol
Finally, with song choices, I was in the same position as you with about two weeks to go, but when I started pushing people, it turned out that most of them were just struggling to choose one song, push people to choose, if they don't then fine, i'll be you can make up the time you need with your own song choices.
Everyones weddings are very personal to themselves, and sometimes the amount of effort you put into it is just not that noticeable to others around you, doesn't mean they are bad ideas, all that matters is that you and the htb have the day you want.
Rach
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DebbieM
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Posting Time: 02 Jul 2009 at 3:01PM
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 Hey wedding twin.
I think its lovely you stick with it.
Regards to your WP I have a few messages but none of our families or friends have said anything on their I don't think they have really looked at it.
I sent them the link and password and I know most of them have pc's but they still ring us and ask for info where I have said to h2b its on the website.
So you are not alone on that.
[Loving being Mrs Moore]
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samantt
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Posting Time: 02 Jul 2009 at 4:11PM
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don't worry about a thing  I've been looked at wierdly and told that I can't do that - such as going to see Harry Potter the night before with my brothers, mum, dad, sisters - where its been so long that we've been together = and I HAD to see harry potter before I went away on honeymoon and the was the origional date it was going to be out
The other thing is I'm going for a pinic with my mates before the weddnig at about 10 ish in the park and just chlil and have a laugh!!
Not many people have commented on my weddingpath - although I do know people look at it. Most of my message I would say are from ladies on this site 
[Can't believe its not a dream]
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AandK
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Posting Time: 02 Jul 2009 at 7:19PM
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Hi Ellen,
I've just had a lovely time browsing around your WeddingPath (hope you don't mind) and I have to say: you are such a creative and inspiring lady. It seems to me that you have chosen the details for your wedding with such care and attention, and it all looks so very lovely. I especially liked your Rolls Royce and your gorgeous cake!
I can totally relate to your frustrations about guests dissing your ideas or not getting as involved as you would like. We too gave everyone our WeddingPath address and asked them to leave song requests and ask questions there as they needed to, but while several have told me they've logged on for a look, not a single guest has left us a message (some WPers have though, thanks girls! ). We also sent song request cards out with the invitations, but only got two of these back. I have chased via email and phone to get song requests out of our guests and I am still chasing a couple of people. The ones I've asked about this (when I caught them!) have said they felt a bit embarrassed about requesting songs in case we, or someone else, didn't like the songs they chose, or they just didn't know what to choose. I guess I can see where they are coming from.
Someone else on this forum wrote a wise thing recently which struck a chord with me: responding to another B2B's moan about an uncooperative family member or guest or partner (can't remember which) she replied (and I'm paraphrasing): 'We keep talking about how it's YOUR day, and you need to remember it is - YOUR day. While your family and guests love you and are glad to be a part of it, it will never mean as much to them as it does to you and, in the meantime, while you are planning your tail off, they are getting on with their lives, and all the stress and complications and joys and frustrations that go along with living. You can't expect them to have as much time and interest in this day as you have.'
Far from feeling chastised or rebuked by those words, I felt released and encouraged. It IS my day (and YOUR day, Ellen) and we DO want it to be beautiful for our guests, and we CAN choose to make it beautiful however we want, after all, it is OUR day. Besides, I think, when the last dance is done, the last cork popped, the last cigarillo eaten, some of our guests will probably come up to us and say: 'Thank you so much for including us in YOUR day. It was simply wonderful.'
Hang in there Ellen, I think your wedding looks amazing...
  K
[Can't help lovin that man of mine]
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mrsfownes2b
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Posting Time: 03 Jul 2009 at 10:38AM
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I have to say, I've been planning on doing ALL the things you've said! I've already done the website which has been really helpful in terms of guests being able to sort out booking their rooms, we're planning on asking for song requests, although I may do that as a topic on my weddingpath message board, and I've been looking in to getting a bay tree or something for the wishing tree so that its something we can keep.
I think they're all lovely ideas, and if anybody thinks its weird then I don't care because I think its great!! 
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Cruiseee
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Posting Time: 03 Jul 2009 at 12:24PM
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Rach, Deb, Sam, K & mrsf, as always Thank You for your kind, reassuring, wise words.
I will try not to let it get to me anymore, coz I know at the end of the day I love these ideas & am lucky to be able to incorporate them into my wedding day, even if my guests don't appreciate them as much as I do! And in the words of the great Frank Sinatra at least I can say 'I did it my way'!
[I'm a wife now! hehe! :-)]
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SophieandNigel
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Posting Time: 03 Jul 2009 at 6:52PM
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i think your ideas are lovely!
where did you get your twig tree from btw? id love to make a wishing tree but not really sure how to go about it for a cheap price & h2b thinks they are daft!
as for song requests i did the same and so far only my mum sister and grandad have bothered to replie, annoying isnt it! & im doubting many have looked at our website, up until 2 weeks ago my bm thought the church and our hotel were in the same place when in fact they are 40 mins apart (its all on the website!) i want to say!
your site looks lovely btw!
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