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kirstie10
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Posting Time: 01 Jul 2009 at 5:55PM
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Hi Ladies,
Sorry but I'm going to have a little rant!!!
My partner and i are getting married next year & decided to have a civil ceremony so we could just have the whole thing in one place, but now my partner has said what about a church wedding (we are on a budget), as it could be cheaper!!!
Now i don't know what to do i was meant to be going to the registrar on friday (as you can only book 1year in advance) to book for our ceremony, but my h2b is thinking a church may be cheaper!!!!! 
That's it rant over.
How is everybodies else planning comoing along.
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Bev06
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Posting Time: 01 Jul 2009 at 7:07PM
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oh hun  MEN who would have them if us brides didnt lol
think you need to sit and have a nice long chat with H2B.......your only going to do this once so it needs to be the day you both want.
what do you want????? you can have a church wedding on a budget as well, trust in the weddingpath girls we will guide you through the budget wedding ( most of us ar having one )
hope you get things sorted and have the wedding of your dreams XX
[loving the weddingpath Girls XX]
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DebbieM
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Posting Time: 01 Jul 2009 at 7:15PM
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Before you book anything you need to sit down with him and talk through what you BOTH want. It is a day you only do once.
I am getting married in church as I was brought up in the family of my local church.
I know you want somewhere where the whole day is in one place but have you thought about having the reception at you chosen venue then a church service.
Church service only cost well ours is £400 that is including the banns for my church then the banns for h2b's is £37. But we are getting the choir free as I was part of them sometimes I will sing at weddings when they are short of people.
but the first thing you need to do is talk to each other before anything.
[Loving being Mrs Moore]
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riaandmarc
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Posting Time: 02 Jul 2009 at 8:49AM
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We are currently talking about this as well, not sure whether we want to go for a civil ceremony where we are having the reception, or whether we want a church ceremony
I am going to look at the church next to where my parents live later, I have never been inside (they have lived there less than a month) but it looks stunning from outside, and the fee for the wedding there is £315 with an orchanist costing an extra £50 if we want it
I think you really need to discuss what you both want, and as much as you are on a budget dont let that completely make your decision for you 
[Im organised...honest]
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samantt
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Posting Time: 02 Jul 2009 at 9:25AM
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I don't think it has to be about budget - and certainly the church may not be the cheaper option anyways. Are either of you religious? not nessary practicing but do you believe in God, even if its some sort of God because if you don't then some of the service in the church will be totaly irrelivant to you. We're getting married in a church because we both believe in something - myself stronger than H2B.
Also the venues don't have to be miles apart - my reception venue is less than a 5 min walk from the church. I think you need to sit down with your H2B and decide whether you want a religious ceromony or not - you can easily do both within a budgt - my whole wedding is only costing £5000 and thats with a 4 course sit down meal. It could have been cheaper if you don't have that money 
[Can't believe its not a dream]
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Seona
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Posting Time: 02 Jul 2009 at 12:37PM
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I think if you're not church goers then have a civil ceremony. It shouldn't be about whether one is cheaper than the other. If you get married in church you ought to believe in God and have an interest in the religion. Otherwise, go for a civil ceremony, they can be just as cheap as a church ceremony.
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ruby04
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Posting Time: 02 Jul 2009 at 12:37PM
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I agree with Sam - I think the decision about whether you get married in a church or not should be based on religion, not cost.
There is a beautiful church just down the road from us that is very popular for weddings, but I never even considered getting married there as we don't go to church, so I would have felt hypocritical 'using' it for my wedding.
It's also worth considering what you say when you say your vows. I felt very strongly about the fact that in a church wedding your vows include promises to God, whereas in a civil ceremony they are very simply to each other
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80schick
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LoveTheVoid
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Posting Time: 02 Jul 2009 at 12:57PM
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They really are the same kinda cost.. mine is under £300 for a civil service in my venue.. we arent going for a church as we arent religious and liked the idea of the whole thing in one place.
[Mrs Litchfield :)]
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Rachiebubbs
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Posting Time: 02 Jul 2009 at 3:11PM
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Hi
Same here, liked having everything all in one place, plus i'm not religious at all and just felt for me personally it was a little hypocritical! Plus for me it was the vows, i was marrying the husband, not religion and it was nice making promises to him and no-one else.
You have to consider all sorts when making your choice, certainly not just cost.
Rachel
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