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sportchick50
Secret Lemonade Drinker:
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Posting Time: 18 Nov 2008 at 11:41PM
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this is moved from the planning posts, so that it's in the right grouping:
Being a christian in a relationship, how things are different?
so now that we all know we're in the same boat, what advise could we share with one another?
How to serve, how to change how we talk to each other.. things like that i guess, anything really.
hey not that it is a big question anymore for me, but i wanted to see where you gals stood on the premarital sex.
my BF and i waited for 10 months and decided that we were going to be married, we promised our selves and God that this was our intention. Therefore we've had sex, but i don't think any couple should just say that and have sex.
i think it's important to not have the physical stuff get in the way of getting to know one another inside and out. i think even non-christian believers should hold off at least a good three to -6 months before they jump in bed, because as soon as that gate is open its a great way to avoid talking and just 'get physical'
And what about the night after the wedding, if things don't work together.. what are you supposed to do then.. (so many questions)...
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richandchelle
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Posting Time: 19 Nov 2008 at 12:04AM
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I met my husband before I became a Christian so ofcourse we were having sex, however when we did become Christians we tried not to have sex at all. It was very hard because we already experianced the joys of sex, so ts probably gonna be very hard for you to do so too.
However,as Christian couples you should refrain from having sex before marriage. In the bible it says not to do it, so why would you pick and choose what to follow
Hebrews 13:4
Marriage is honourable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulteres God will judge.
sex is an intimate expression of marital love affection between husband and wife. marriage is the one and only place that God allows for and encourages sexual union to take place. in this setting it becomes a powerful symbol of love and a pure sharing of joy and delight in one another, which is a gift from God. outside these boundaries, it becomes destructive.
I dont want you to feel condemmed, but it is what the word of God says, I pray that you consider stopping, because God wil truly honour your mrriage. As ive said before ive been through it and it is extremly hard to stop and there will definately be times where you may slip up, but pick yourselves up again and start over.
And also to do with 'having sex before marriage to makesure u both are compatible or that the sex is good is a whole lot of rubbish. Good sex comes with lots of practice
hope ive helped if u want any more scriptures get back to me
chelle x
[Im so in love!!!!!!!!!]
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sportchick50
Secret Lemonade Drinker:
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Posting Time: 21 Nov 2008 at 4:05PM
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as much as i love your helpful hints and references to the bible, i don't think i will try to stop what we are doing. yes, sex before marriage i agree isn't' the best and the bible says no. But thats where i stand, i think i would be more inclined to stopping our actions if i knew we weren't going to get married really soon, but since it'll be this summer i find it (because we already have enough stress in our lives) a hassle, we know that if we put our minds hearts and prayers to it we could stop, but honestly we're ok with that 'failure' of trying.
i know i sound stubborn and in many ways it's fully 100% true i am, but thats how God made me and i can't help (for the most part) my will to do the thing that seems right in my mind. ... anyways..
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DebbieM
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Posting Time: 22 Nov 2008 at 5:18PM
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We won't be stopping either as its nice to have some interment time together without talking about the wedding,money probs or about his stressful job.
I am sure god understand if it helps us get closer to each other then I see no problem.
[Loving being Mrs Moore]
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sportchick50
Secret Lemonade Drinker:
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Posting Time: 05 Dec 2008 at 2:55AM
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funny thing, (i week on a week trip to visit family, a funeral, etc) and when i got back he really wanted to try .. to sustain... at least more than just doing it casually. So i agreed and we're going to try..
g2g write more in a bit.
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