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Posting Time: 13 May 2008 at 8:02PM  Reply with quote   Edit this post   Delete this post

As our wedding is rapidly approaching we have just been hit with the news that our 6 year old son most probably has Aspergers Syndrome. I have just started a new job and I don't know how much more my nerves can take!!!

Does anyone have any experience with children with Aspergers??
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Posting Time: 13 May 2008 at 8:32PM  Reply with quote   Edit this post   Delete this post

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One of my closest friends has a son with Aspergers. Very similar sypmtoms to Autism I believe!!
And I also have a client whos son has Aspergers.

Both boys have varying degrees of the condition.

My friends son is 15 now-and is a lovely boy. He was diagnosed at quite a young age-but i remember her telling me they had a real time of it, trying to get the correct diagnosis (and her hubby is a GP!!!). His case is quite mild i believe, but can get worse if he is stressed. He get obsessed with things. But the obsessions soon pass!!

My clients son lives in a residential home - his case is quite severe.........although I dont know anymore details about him. I am always reluctant to ask

How are you feeling about the diagnosis?? Little Kiss
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Posting Time: 13 May 2008 at 8:40PM  Reply with quote   Edit this post   Delete this post

Oh sorry to hear your news. Aspergers has some symptoms similar to autism but not the same, I work with an autistic boy in my class, it's tough because our school is not the place for him (there are too many kids in each class, it's bilingual etc) I would say to do your best of make sure he gets all the help he can get and that you and your H2B also get as much support, advice and help wherever you can.
The mother of my pupil is not open to the diagnosis and denies that there is anything wrong with Alberto which doesn't help. The quicker you come to terms with it the quicker you can help him.
I can't give any other advice except that on days when Alberto does something new or I feel I have got through to him in someway (today this happened) it is way more rewarding than with any other of the children teach. Good luck with it all, thinking of you Heart
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Posting Time: 13 May 2008 at 8:51PM  Reply with quote   Edit this post   Delete this post

I would like to think that if the diagnosis is correct, that my son only has a mild form. He is a lovely boy and very intelligent. But he has problems keeping friends...he has no problems making them, they just can't cope with him, I suppose they find him quite over-bearing. At home our main problem is his incessant talking, he never stops, he doesn't really talk to anyone in particular, he just talks!!!

But there are lots of other things that have led to our seeking help and it seems as if he has 'text book' symptoms. Although I believe there are many symptoms which are quite contradictory, but we shall wait and see, I am just hoping that we can find a way to help me make and keep friends as this is the thing that makes him unhappy!
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Posting Time: 13 May 2008 at 9:23PM  Reply with quote   Edit this post   Delete this post

Sounds like from what you say to be mild (though I'm no expert) What are his text book symptoms out of interest? Just wondering from a professional point of view..
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Posting Time: 13 May 2008 at 9:38PM  Reply with quote   Edit this post   Delete this post

Edited by jamesanddiane, 13 May 2008 at 09:39PM:

Poor Motor Skills - he can't throw & catch a ball, he can't cut his food, tie his shoe laces, balance, ride a bike (these are all things that his peers have been able to do for a long time)

He is 6 (7 in a few weeks)with a reading age of 10, and an almost unshakeable ability to spell any word with 100% accuracy but is unable to tell the time, work unassisted with simple numeracy tasks.

He has poor social skills, and does not understand or recognise other peoples emotions. He does not understand turn taking in conversation.

He takes things very literal, and although very emotional about things that appear reletively unimportant to us, does not see the big deal about important people in his life leaving or dying etc.

He has fixations / obsessions. At the moment it is Doctor Who, and he talks about it all day everyday. He knows every character, goodies and baddies, every plot and story line.

He has unusual body movements, like flappingnhis arms and spinnning when he is walking or concentrating (he will stand up turn around then sit down and continue what he was doing) he repeats this behaviour every few minutes.

And finally he is extremly sensitive to sound and smell and has strong likes and dislikes for things, such as his clothes, hates labels in the back of his clothes, doesn't like jeans or shorts, won't wear jumpers the list goes on and on!!!


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Posting Time: 13 May 2008 at 10:11PM  Reply with quote   Edit this post   Delete this post

wow, you have your hands full missus! Sound like lots of things that can improve with time (and patience).
Some of the unusual body movements remind me of Alberto, flapping arms, covering his ears at certain sounds etc, but it's obviously a completely different diagnosis.
Sometimes other kids have an incredible ability to understand children like your son, maybe that way he will find a special friend. In my class the other children help and support Alberto, hug him, pick up the toys he's thrown, carry his bag for him etc, and they're only 3!
Hope things begin to work out, please let us know how he gets on.
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Posting Time: 13 May 2008 at 11:49PM  Reply with quote   Edit this post   Delete this post

huni im 20 and i cant trhow or catch a ball! throwing always goes oppsite way to where im aiming it and catching i cant do!! so 6 year old not doing it isnt nothing to worry about yeh! i talk all the time to! but i got told i had bad dysbracsa and dyslesica sorry cant spell them and that why i was the way i was but huni i shouldent worry to much! just set him goals to worl towards to help him!xxxx
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Posting Time: 14 May 2008 at 4:43AM  Reply with quote   Edit this post   Delete this post

I read a wonderful book called 'The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time' by Mark Haddon a few years ago. It's about a boy who has autism and it's all written from his perspective. It really helped me to understand the way that children with autism or asperger's see the world and I'd really recommend it. I'm sure you will be able to work through thing, the important thing is that he's been diagnosed and so now you can work out the best ways to help him.

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Posting Time: 14 May 2008 at 7:34PM  Reply with quote   Edit this post   Delete this post

selina4shaun070707, 13 May 2008 at 11:49PM said:
huni im 20 and i cant trhow or catch a ball! throwing always goes oppsite way to where im aiming it and catching i cant do!! so 6 year old not doing it isnt nothing to worry about yeh! i talk all the time to! but i got told i had bad dysbracsa and dyslesica sorry cant spell them and that why i was the way i was but huni i shouldent worry to much! just set him goals to worl towards to help him!xxxx
Thank you Selina, my Son is perfect as far as we're concerned, but I will welcome anything that is going to help him make friends and be happy!
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