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xxLea4Jayxx
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Posting Time: 07 Apr 2009 at 9:07AM
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Me and H2B are trying for a baby, since my last miscarriage i have had 3 normal periods so i am hoping my body has recovered and i can now try and concieve again, after my first miscarriage i fel straight away again no break or period between losing baby and falling again! so fingers crossed this time i have a full term pregnancy! has anyone got any tips on concieveing? first baby would have been due next month so feeling quite down second miscarriage i don't really think about its the first one thats always there in my mind! i also am finding everyone around me is falling pregnant which i struggle with anyone got any advice on how to deal with it, one girl i find is so in my face about it and no's my situation so i act like i don't care and i comment positively about her pregnancy & baby being due but does get me down shes not the nicest of people and not my fav person in the world....anyway all keep your fingers and toes crossed for me so ready just hope its meant to be! xxxx
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bigfatlondonwedding
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Posting Time: 12 Apr 2009 at 8:21PM
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Good luck. My advice would be not to stress too much. After my miscarriage I obsessed about falling pregnant again, as soon as I stopped I got pregnant! I had a scare again at the start but I am now 25 weeks and hopefully this time all will be well.
My friend was trying for nine months and as soon as she stopped trying she got pregnant again. You got pregnant twice so hopefully you will fall quickly again. Have fun trying and fingers crossed for you. 
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mrsdmiller
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Posting Time: 14 Apr 2009 at 12:36PM
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Hi
Me and my new hubby already have a wee girl together but we are desperate to try for our second baby. I am tryin to relax but as ive heard a lot about those kinds of people but its really hard to stop thinking about something we want most in the world 
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[**** Im now a Wifey **** ]
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xxLea4Jayxx
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Posting Time: 20 Apr 2009 at 8:53AM
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Hi Girls, I try and relax and i think i am but then again maybe im not! I am due on, on the 02/05 So will see then if i am lucky this month, im finding it more hard because everyone i know is pregnant! so many of my friends and people on facebook and i feel its so in my face, im struggling this month and would have been due next month so really am feeling it atm! i just want to curl up in a ball and cry, one person inparticular i feel rubs it in my face and she does no the situation and what i have been through, there was a time when she was never on facebook now leading up to her pregnancy everyday its something about the baby! maybe i am being stupid first babies are exciting but i have other friends who rarely mention it unless there asked and unless something is different that day! strange maybe i am just feeling petty! i can;t explain how i feel! i just want to be over it but im not sure how to get over it! xxx
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SophieandNigel
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Posting Time: 23 Apr 2009 at 12:39PM
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no advice but just wanted to wish you the best of luck 
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sazjc123
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Posting Time: 02 Jun 2009 at 11:04AM
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Bigfatlondonwedding is right, dont try and it will happen.
Your causing yourself more hurt by getting yourself prepared to miss a period, yet when it comes its upsetting.
I was trying from january this year and having sex every night and nothign happened, by the time i came on in March and had loads to sort for my wedding which was 2 months later i just stopped trying and a few days after my wedding i didn't come on, and the test said positive. .
Fingers crossed for you hun, and just ignore all the people who are rubbing it in your face. Don't get stressed over it as its not helping you, just chill your time will come.
Good luck x
[happily Married :D]
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xrheax
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Posting Time: 02 Jun 2009 at 12:11PM
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I always thought you should allow a year to allow your body to recover after a miscarriage, but after checking it's recommend to be to to three months. This is from a physical point of view, emotionally you may need longer. It may not happen straight away, it took a few months after mine before I was pregnant with my daughter, so try not to build your hopes too hard every month. Make sure you excercise, eat well and remain as stress free as possible.
You don't say if your friends have had miscarriages themselves. Many people assume you get over a miscarriage fairly quickly and that if it's been a few months you should be back to 'normal'. It takes time, sometimes years, to remember a miscarriage without it causing painful emotional loss, even if you go on to have many more children. Most women bond with their babies before they are even born, and it's natural to feel loss. time does obviously help, and it will improve.
I don't think the women are deliberatly setting out to hurt you, or make you upset. I think the main one is just very excited about her first baby, and want's to share that with everyone. She will also be very hormonal, and sometimes we lose our perspective regarding how other people are going to feel about our news, we just assume everyone is as happy as we are.
That doesn't mean you aren't allowed to feel upset and hurt. If it's hard reading her status messages, then try spending less time on f/b and don't visit her page as much.
There is some advice on TTC here:
Trying To Conceive. There are lots of articles online you can read to get additional help.
I do understand how difficult this is, and I understand how it can seem that everyone else in the world is pushing a buggy, or proudly showing off their bump. I understand how hard it is to watch other mothers happily playing with their children in the sunshine and how sad you feel watching parents that are a little vexed giving their wee ones into trouble when you yourself would love to have a child.
It will get better though. You need to think positively and fill your days with other activities and hobbies too. Look at this time together as an opportunity to spend some quality time together as a couple before you are parents and a baby limits the time you have together.
If you need to chat, or just want to talk to someone that understands, won't judge and doesn't know every part of you intimately then feel free to drop me an email, or you can find me on FB.
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