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anyone who has had a baby feb 09 (watch topic)
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lisanchris
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Posting Time: 03 Apr 2009 at 9:01PM  Reply with quote   Edit this post   Delete this post
hi has anyone had a baby who was born in feb 09. i am a first time mum and feel like im doing everything wrong. does anyone feel the same or is it just me?
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Posting Time: 06 Apr 2009 at 10:12AM  Reply with quote   Edit this post   Delete this post
My children were born before then, but feelings of isolationg and doing everything wrong are very common.

Are you getting enough support - and I mean people that actively help and encourage you, not well meaning relatives or friends that just make you feel worse.

Tryu joining a couple of mother and baby groups too - they help you make new friends, build up your confidence and you start to feel better in yourself.

Make sure the health visitor knows how you feel, she can help you talk over you fears and suggest additinal help or advice if appropriate.

Make sure you are getting a break EVERY DAY! They don't need to be for a long time, simply enough for a cup of tea, or a long bath. Try tp get a longer break once a week, for a couple of hours or so. Most grans/nannas are keen to have baby to themselves for a couple of hours every week, and it helps to build their relatinship too

Give yourself a break, a few weeks with a brand new person is stressful, hard and scary. It is also exciting, lovely and wonderful, so try to concentrate on the positives and remember that everone is different, and for some it takes a bit longer to adjust.

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Posting Time: 06 Apr 2009 at 11:27AM  Reply with quote   Edit this post   Delete this post
Edited by claireandtom, 06 Apr 2009 at 11:29AM:

Wave I agree with everything rhea said. I have one little boy, and the first few weeks/months where a struggle. trying to get into some sort of routine and order. Unfortunatly babies make their own shedule but try to relax abit even if it's only for a sit down with a cuppa when baby is asleep. Just switch off for a few minutes.

Tell someone how you feel and don't be afraid to ask for help or advice from family and friends. Chances are they are dying to look after your little one, and just don't want to seem pushy by asking you.
If you do need advice you can always come here too, i'm sure someone will be able to relate to pretty much anything.

chin up and just enjoy being a mummy, i'm sure you are doing great Thumbs up

P.S don't let people tell you your doing things wrong (especially parents, grandparents etc.) As things have changed so much of the years that nothing is relevant for long.

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Best advice I can give you from being a nanny to watching my sister struggle with PMD and 6 years on still is.

Don't bottle things up if you are really worried then please see your GP or health vistor.
Worse thing new mums can do is not open up.

There is no right and wrong way of doing things.
there are some website sites on line forums to join to get to meet mums etc.

How about joining a mother and baby group or an NCT group.

When baby sleeps its your time to relax and have some rest. If you can let others help you and take some time out.
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Hi there, my little girl was born in April 2008 and I agree feelings of feeling like you are doing it wrong etc are so so common, but as someone has already said i agree about watching out for Post natal depression, I've had it too and the best thing you can do is talk to someone, best thing I ever did was get it all out! See the doc, just tell him/her you are feeling down etc and they will be able to help. Sometimes it's enough just to have somebody listen. Also, make sure you get time to yourself, it's only lately I've started going out with my friends without my little girl (she stays home with her daddy) and believe me it does the world of good feeling more than a mummy just for even a couple of nights a month has made me feel so much better!
Good luck, it does get easier! My little girl is now 13 months and walking and talking and things are so much easier now she's more independent!
keep your chin up and keep smiling honey Smiles all mums get to where you are at some point, you aren't alone!! x x x x
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